When Is It Too Much?



I recently read an article posted on Mom Wife Woman where she wrote 4 Reasons Why You Won't See My Kid's Faces In Your Newsfeed and she talks about why she keeps her kids photos off the internet and I think it's a great reminder, especially as bloggers, why we need to be more cautious when posting pictures of our children.

When I first started blogging, I struggled with whether or not to show photos of my son. In the beginning I would try to show only side profiles or the back of his head but then I decided to go ahead and show him. It was hard and scary at first because it's the internet - I don't know the people reading this blog just as much as you don't know who I am. I don't know your background, I don't know you history and I don't know your intentions. One of the points Mom Wife Woman made was that people will take photos of children and post them as if they were their own child. I remember seeing this on the news and it freaked me the f**k out! Was I doing something wrong by showing photos of my son?

Here are people, perhaps some who are just lonely and unable to have children, taking your child's photo and using it for their own purposes. That's a huge violation to me and my child. On a level I could understand their reasoning but on the other it's incredibly creepy. I want to be able to connect with my readers and I want to be able to share my stories as a mother but at what point am I doing too much?

You then have the more obvious and most scary side of the internet and it's the creepers and perverts who use your child's photo for the most inexcusable actions imaginable. Thinking about it makes me sick to my stomach. In an age where we are so involved with the internet, there's Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, SnapChat - we've become a generation of oversharers inevitably leaving ourselves exposed to these people for the instant gratification that 50 people liked our post. People that steal photos is almost equivalent to peeping toms who use to hang out windows expect now, they're in their homes behind a monitor. It's incredible the violation they can do with just a few clicks of a mouse.

I wonder where we got this insatiable need to have our lives validated? Is it the idea that everything we do matters? That our kids are the cutest we need everyone to see it? Perhaps it's the instant infamey we gain for from just sharing our daily life - YouTube, Vines. I'm just like other people, I have blogs I love reading and YouTube vloggers I enjoy watching but I wonder what in our minds justifies or rather ignores the risk.

Some might look at this and call me the biggest hypocrite with my postings of my son's birthday, weekends and inner workings of my parenting and maybe I am. But I want to be able to be as cautious as I can be - I don't use my husband or my son's name anywhere in this blog, I blur out anything that might reference to it and I try to avoid specific references to where I live. We need to make sure we have an understanding of the magnitude the internet has - so many people can see your life even when we don't realize it.

Remember our babies need to be protected and the minute I feel something isn't right, well you'll just have deal with seeing pics of just me and all my awesomeness.

Until Then - Happy Posting Loves!

XO,


3 comments :

  1. I'm glad my post triggered you to think about how and what you share. I used to share so much of my kids' personal lives on social media without even thinking about their safety. It wasn't until I started blogging that I realized that there are people out there who will use my kids' pictures for their own personal use, perverted or not. Our childrens' safety needs to be our number one priority and if it means I don't have as many followers or likes on my blog, I'm okay with that. I'd hope my readers would support and understand my stance on the issue. Thanks for the post! It's the first time I've been mentioned in a blog post, aside from the Liebster Award. You made my day!

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    1. Thanks for the comment and reading it Kathy! Your article was a great reminder that the internet is not alway a safe place. And you're right! Kids trump followers!

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  2. Love your article, that is right... our babies need to protected at all times #4Dlove2Linky

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